On Mirrors

If we think of our early growing up life, the formative years when we learn about who we are through the significant relationships around us; the expressions on people's faces when our eyes met theirs, can be likened to looking in a mirror.

Some of you may have seen a shimmer in the eyes looking back at you, a gaze of safety, something there that was secure, telling you you were free to be who you are, with all of your thoughts and feelings. This is where we learn healthy dependency.

And for many of us, we know the sting of not being sure how we land, emotionally, on someone else. This causes a deep fear, and can compel a person to hide every single feeling, every thought, almost to the point of not existing because to be honest was too much of a risk.

I'm here to say- you exist. Your feelings matter. You matter. This phrase is being expressed often lately, but it couldn't be more true. If this is hard to believe, and you've endured living in distorted mirrors; seek out a safe, loving therapist who can be a healing mirror for you, so that you get to see the real you, the authentic, marvelous you!