Love is what has saved me. Time and time again. It's what saves you, too. The rescuing nature of love is what teaches us reliance, is what gives us peace and security.

The one thing I hope you remember this Valentine's Day, beyond the commercialized emphasis on romantic love, is that you are beloved, through and through.

This one is hard for us to remember; it's easy to measure ourselves by our mistakes, or insecurities, anxieties, or depression. When we've failed, the temptation is to believe that our actions are the sum of our parts... rather than just a part. Remember, you are good — just as you are, not as you think you should be.

I know that some of you haven't been loved well throughout your lifetime; many of you have suffered complex traumas, and this can confuse how you see yourself. You are still worthy of love and loving. I promise! Be gentle with yourself. Remember that self-compassion is the pathway that healing walks through.

Relentless compassion. Also...boundaries are a valuable part of love. Love sometimes means drawing a firm and fierce line in the sand. You are worthy of respect. Your boundaries may be the most loving gesture you offer.

Love is generative. Feel it, give it, spread it around like crazy. Conversely, guard your heart; it truly is the wellspring of life. Be vulnerable with your safe people, and let yourself receive love. Sometimes, that is the hardest part.