The Words We Need To Hear
When, in our growing up life, or even in our adult years, we didn't hear the words we needed to feel understood, secure, safe, or confident. It can make navigating relationships or experiences especially difficult; it's as if self-doubt is inscribed on the welcome mat of our hearts.
Can you imagine what it would've felt like to hear the words you needed, and how different you would live? What were the words you needed to hear? Was it, "You are worth being protected; this is not yours to handle; we believe you; I'm sorry; tell me more; it makes sense that you're angry with me..." or maybe you just needed to be listened to, understood, some kind of non-verbal communication that left you feeling like you were heard and matter.
If the words you needed weren't ever spoken to you, I want you to know that you are deeply worthy of those words. Practice saying the kind and loving words to yourself, over and over again, until it sinks down into your heart and becomes who you are. And, dear friends, say the words that people need to hear to each other. There is a drought of kindness and love in our world, that we can easily quench by speaking words that are true and warm. Lavish those words on your friends and those around you; and let them be the mantras you start your day with. These are the building blocks of secure attachments.